Since I was a shy guy for a long time, not so shy anymore, thanks to the pick up artists community, I can explain here why shy guys usually have 0 success with woman, unless they are really really lucky.
If a shy guy in the school wants that nice girl, he will feel even more shyness, hart beating, adrenalin he will get nervous he wont be able to talk to her, and he will drive himself into platonic feelings.
And this girl, usually will never go for him, because she probably feel the same, and for her would be even worst, the fear of being a cheap girl, and the culture of lazy waiting girls in our society will make her freeze. So the guy shall break this wall otherwise it will become a habit, and a trauma. And it will probably happen again and again and again, Until we don't know when.
Some guys are 30 years old and still shy, counting with lucky to find the right girl. This will probably never happen, specially if he is interested, usually when you are too interested on something, you are not lucky on it. (maybe some future topic about energy dynamics) .
Unfortunate shy guys usually are the best males ever, because they are usually natural thinkers, they are always sensible with woman, and cheerful, they aren't so promiscuous, and have usually more ethical behavior in every aspect of life. Some of them off course are natural looser, but bill gates isn't. :)
Our society still keep high values on animal's male behaviors, a brave, strong, and social football player is perhaps the dream of most of the girls, specially if he plays bullying with other shy guys in the school, which shows of course low natural ethical behavior.
Most of the pick up techniques are based on the chief of tribe behavior, the guy who shall act better than the others, the social, the one how can talk to all, and have respect from all of them, the one who knows how to impose himself and to stand up more then all the others, that's the concept of alpha male, and that's theoretically what mostly seduces woman's in the whole world.
But I am not sure, I wouldn't like to live in a world where everyone is playing to be alpha male, very talk active, charming, and well dressed guys. Because its simply as boring as living in a world full of shy guys. (take Sweden as an example of boring cold country,where the woman's sometimes have to be aggressive to get a guy, because they are even too shy.)
And in practice I don't believe woman only fall for that, sometimes most part of the woman's, they need to have a feeling about the guy, usually you can bring that up from pity, if they feel you are not such cool guy, and deserve some attention, and you making an effort for her, and you seriously enjoy her, they will be interested on you, more than if you were an alpha male bullshit.
If you are more pro active as a male, you will anyway have thousands more opportunities than if you are just quiet and waiting, passively.(see the first post about animal behavior).
Also, they are some cultural divergences for example: Nordic countries like: north of Europe, and Russia, or even USA. The woman's have the tendency to look for more brains than social. In Latin countries the woman's have a tendency to seek more for social guys, and the males have the tendency of being more aggressive, and that gives them the fame of being hot guys.
I haven't been in any Asian country and cannot give a statement about it, but theoretically since they haven't got so much influence over sexually repressing religions such as catholic and Lutheran, they should be more balanced about it.
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